Are your friendships or relationships usually short-lived? If yes, what do you think could be the underlying reason? What sorts of beliefs do you have about friendships and relationships? Are those beliefs accurate or are they distorted? When your beliefs are distorted, it can lead you to behaviors that sabotage your relationships and leave you neglecting yourself. Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about five distorted beliefs that will ruin your friendships and relationships.
Am I replaceable?
You’re not the first person who felt replaced in a friendship or relationship before. However, what is not emotionally healthy for you is to have the conviction that you will always be replaced in future friendships or relationships.
Most of people hold on to this belief, because they’re afraid of similar past experiences repeating itself, but is it really useful? Who knows? You might meet new friends or a special person, who really appreciates and treasures you for who you really are.
I am meant to be alone
Do you subconsciously tell yourself you're destined to be alone after difficult friendships or failed relationships? This belief of feeling like you're destined to be alone can be derived from the difficulty in communicating your thoughts and emotions, which can result in feelings of loneliness. If you feel like you're meant to be alone, you're not. You're deserve to have friends or family who care about you.
Assuming they do not care
Adopting this belief can be detrimental to friendships and relationships as there is a presence of assumptions, mistrust and miscommunication, which could lead to disagreements. At times, your friends may give you the impression that they do not care, but it may not always be the case. Different people show care differently and different people have their own definitions of feeling cared for.
Assuming they understand you
Are you guilty of not communicating how you truly feel or think directly to others, because you assume that they are able to read your mind and understand you. Assumptions create uncertainty and we may end up creating false scenarios in our minds, which may lead to further misunderstanding. Even the most intuitive people are not mind reader's.
I am unlovable
Have you ever been labeled as unlovable or something similar by your parents, a lover or ex-lover? How did you feel when they said that? This might cause you to internalize this belief and behave in a way that will sabotage your relationships and friendships.
You are afraid to show others who you really are, because you believe people will not like you if they knew the real you, but do you really think this is true?
So, why do many of us have beliefs like this? Studies done by the American Psychological Association and others have shown that our brains are wired to think negatively and it can be a form of a defense mechanism.
One important thing to understand is that friendships or relationships can come and go due to different reasons.
Don't blame yourself too much if things do not work out. It can be difficult to open up to new friends or partners due to negative past experiences, but the right person will be accepting of your flaws and inspire you to be a better person.
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