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Published on June 22, 2020

5 Simple Tricks to Grow Your Confidence!

Growing your confidence is very important. confidence is the key of success in life, in relationships and work. When people believe in themselves and their capacities, they can achieve all their goals. Do you want to know how to be confident? Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're gonna learn about five simple tricks to grow your confidence.

Conquering conflict

Conflict and confidence just don't go well together. When something seems like it could go wrong, your fears often cripple your confidence. If something actually does go wrong, then shame and guilt can have the exact same effect, because conflict has so much a negative potential. You might avoid it at all costs, but this mindset is keeping you from growing into a more confident person.

We derive the most self esteem from our ability to overcome obstacles. Conquered conflicts show you exactly what you're capable of. Those feelings of pride and triumph will boost your performance and motivate you to tackle new challenges. You can easily grow your confidence by confronting and resolving small conflicts. It could be anything from an argument with a co-worker to a clash of personalities.

It's important to practice handling those little conflicts effectively. Eventually, you'll work your way up from minor issues to major ones and by then, those conflicts won't seem nearly as intimidating. Your fears will unravel and your confidence will soar, giving you the tools to handle even the rockiest situations.

Partial objectivity

How can someone be truly objective about their own life? Can you really remove all personal biases from any decision? Most people would argue that you couldn't and they're probably right. It's impossible to make something 100% objective. Everything you think or everything you know has been influenced by something.

In fact, the person that you are is largely a product of the world around you. Your parents and friends shaped your personality. Your school molded your interests. The entire framework that you use to judge everything comes from somewhere and this means you can never really remove yourself from any choice that you make, but it doesn't hurt to try.

Imagine you're starting your first day at a new job. It's a higher position than you've ever had before. You're determined to excel, but you're nervous about making a good first impression. You want to seem strong and confident, you want your co-workers to like and respect you, but all you're feeling right now is anxiety and self-doubt. You're convinced that the moment you step into that office, they'll see right through you. They'll know exactly how scared you are.

So, how can objectivity help you make the ideal first impression? Objective thinking will train you to block out your fears you can free yourself from that swirling vortex of doubts and uncontrollable emotions. Objectivity gives you a much-needed sense of control over your life, because it shows you where you need to grow.

In other words, being objective before your first day on the job will force you to change your perspective. Instead of constantly worrying about how others will perceive you, you can reflect on how you see yourself. Do you think you're confident? Do you think you deserve their respect? Ultimately, your goal isn't to anticipate the judgments of every person in the room. That's just not realistic.

Even if you're the most confident person in the world, there will always be people who want to criticize you. It also helps to remember that everyone in the room has their own set of insecurities. None of them will judge you harder than you judge yourself, because they already have enough to worry about. While you're scared of looking insecure, they might be worried about coming off as annoying or lazy.

So, when I say be objective, I mean try to view yourself from the lens of one hypothetical person, who isn't you. If you can satisfy that person, then you have nothing to worry about, but what's the point of knowing all this if objectivity isn't even possible? That isn't entirely true. You can't be 100% objective, but you can be 80 or 75 percent. Partial objectivity is way better than none. It still shifts your perspective, builds confidence and relieve stress.

Partial objectivity will still show you where you're going wrong. It really isn't important that you learn how to be completely objective right away, but don't waste your time worrying about little biases here and there. The simple fact that you're trying to look objectively at your life is often enough to change it.

Destructive modesty

People who struggle with confidence frequently fail to see what they have to offer the world. This is especially common for new artists and entrepreneurs. You look out on the thousands of professionals who carve their niche in the world and you feel like you don't belong. It seems like each one of them has a special something that you just don't. A message to send, change they want to make or maybe you do have something you want to say. You're just too worried about what other people will think to say it.

In certain situations, this kind of modesty isn't terrible. It's always beneficial to keep yourself and your work and perspective. It helps you to manage expectations and relieve pressure. It will help you stay humble in the face of failure, but that same modesty will diminish your confidence. It'll keep you from understanding your worth. It's easy to look at all the other amazing people in your field and value what they have to offer, but it's much harder to feel the same way about something you've created.

To build your confidence, remember that whatever you create will be one-of-a-kind whether you like it or not. Even if you have the same idea as someone else, the fact that it's yours will completely change how it turns out. Just look at all the different companies out there that make the exact same product or the artists that experiment with identical subject matter. You may not think you have anything to offer the world, but your unique perspective is plenty.

Prepare for nightmares

Lack of confidence often stems from a fear of the unknown. When you're thrown into a new situation, you might feel out of control. You might feel paralyzed simply because you don't know what's waiting on the other side. Take this example: you're working an office job that you don't really like. You always talk about how you want to pursue your dream in the arts, but there aren't any openings. Suddenly, the ideal position opens up. You could submit an application right away, yet you let the opportunity pass you by.

Instead of going for your dream, you stick with the same old office job, because it's easy and familiar. You know what's expected of you. You know how to handle challenges. You've always dreamed of having that position, but you don't know if you can actually handle it. You aren't confident enough to dive headfirst into the unknown.

Luckily, there's an easy trick to help you move past that fear. You have to prepare for the worst situation that you can possibly think of. Start by visualizing it step by step. You can even act it out if you want to. The most important part is that you experience your biggest nightmare way ahead of time. After you've rehearsed your nightmare, you should figure out how to stop it from happening.

There's nothing wrong with taking precautions. People often get scared that being cautious brings your fears to life, but that isn't how it works. In fact, addressing your fears directly often stops them from impeding your performance. So, for example, if you're worried about messing up your speech, you should bring note cards with you.

It doesn't mean you're doomed to go blank in the middle of your presentation. Nine times out of ten simply having those note cards in your pocket will keep you from using them. In other words, taking precautions isn't just a solution when things go wrong. It will also keep your nightmares from coming to life.

Defend yourself

Your lack of confidence might come from the people around you. They might belittle your ideas or make you question your goals. They can fill your head with so many doubts that your confidence just falls by the wayside. It's tempting to take what other people say is fact, especially if you have low self-esteem. You might naturally assume that everyone knows what's best for you better than you do.

Let's say for example that a classmate shoots down one of your ideas for a presentation. Most people would believe them. They look down on their own ideas and then feel hesitant to say anything else. Instead of taking a leadership role, they just fade into the background all because someone didn't like their idea.

So, why does one person's opinion feel like such a big deal? When someone doesn't like what you're saying, it doesn't seem like just one person. You wonder. If everyone else is thinking the same thing. Oftentimes, the spotlight effect will start to kick in. You feel like you're the center of every bit of negative attention. You start to imagine all the critical things that people might say to you and before long, you can't even think about the project, because you're too worried about being judged.

So, how do you turn this situation around? How can someone else's criticisms build your confidence instead of destroying it. When someone insults your ideas or goals, stand up for yourself. If you liked an idea enough to say it out loud, then it's worth defending. Those doubtful voices in your head may not go away that easily, but it's important that you actively believe in yourself. This builds confidence by forcing you to value your own opinions more than other people's.

Constructive criticism is important. Sometimes, you need other perspectives to see something clearly, but most of the time, your opinion matters far more than anyone else's. So, if you believe in something, don't let anyone tear you down.

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