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Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about 20 psychology tricks that will blow your mind. These psychological tricks play into the social interactions we have every single day. You probably didn’t see these on tik tok, but they actually work. Try them now. 

Splitting your week

Does your work week feel too long? Are you tired of waiting until friday to enjoy yourself? Cut your work week in half by scheduling something fun every wednesday. You can invite friends over after work or make time to watch your favorite tv show. The goal here is to create a reward on wednesday afternoons, so every wednesday will feel like a mini weekend and every week will fly by twice as fast.

Name repetition

Do you struggle with names? This trick can help you remember names and faces quickly and easily. So, the next time you meet someone, say their name back to them. This simple psychology trick does two things: first, it ingrains their name into your memory. Repeating their name forces you to hear and process their name. No more awkwardly asking someone what their name was. With this trick, you can remember every name the first time around, but that's not all.

By repeating people's names, you actually make a better first impression. This trick shows people that you're listening and paying attention. It creates an immediate bond between you and a stranger. So, don't let another name slip in one ear and out the other. As soon as someone introduces themselves, say their name out loud.

Restless chewing

Is there an easy trick to relieve your restless energy? Instead of shaking your legs or tapping your fingers, try this: the next time you're in a stressful situation, chew on a stick of gum. Chewing gum is a discreet and effective method of soothing your nerves. It releases restless energy without making you look nervous and the best part is you can chew gum almost anywhere.

Confident consumption

Have you ever experienced this awkward scenario? You're eating dinner at a restaurant with a group of co-workers. When the food finally comes, no one wants to be the first person to load up their plate. So, everyone sits around awkwardly waiting for someone to make the first move. For this psychological trick, you be that someone. Don't sit around waiting for other people to give you permission. Show your confidence by diving right in. You may be breaking some unwritten rule, but people will respect you for making the first move.

Receptive paraphrasing

How do you show someone that you're listening closely? Many people smile and nod these are effective strategies, but this trick makes you seem like an extraordinary listener and conversationalist. When someone tells you a story, repeat their main ideas back to them in your own words.

Paraphrasing shows people that you're paying attention and you care about what they're saying. The other person will feel heard and valued, which leaves a strong positive impression. As an added bonus, you actually do listen better. When you paraphrase something, you're absorbing more information. Paraphrasing challenges you to explain a concept in a different way, which ingrains that concept in your memory.

The wise weekdays

When's the best time to schedule your job interview, the beginning, middle or end of the week? Many people don't think it makes a difference, but it does. On monday, interviewers are more likely to be curt and crabby. They're still adjusting to the work week, so your interview has a greater chance of going south. On friday, you may encounter the opposite problem, Interviewers are ready for the weekend, so their minds are often elsewhere. Your interview may be brief and uneventful because your interviewer is dreaming of the weekend. So, schedule your interview for a tuesday or wednesday morning. In the middle of the week, interviewers are well adjusted and focused and that gives you a greater chance of success.

The bystander effect

As a group, people are timid and unresponsive. If you ask a group of people for help, there's a good chance no one will answer, because we expect someone else to take responsibility, we sit on the sidelines and we watch because we don't want to get our hands dirty. This is called: the bystander effect. So, if you need help, don't appeal to a group. Call on one specific person. People are more likely to take action when the responsibility falls solely on their shoulders. Performers use this trick all the time. Instead of asking for volunteers, they pick someone from the crowd, that person is more likely to come on stage because they were chosen individually.

Smiling in context

Everyone likes to see you smile, but sometimes smiling creates the wrong impression. Let's say you're interviewing for a high stress job. If you give a big toothy smile during your interview, they may not think you're tough enough for the job, but that doesn't mean you have to stay stone-faced the entire time. When you smile, do it with your mouth closed. A closed smile shows that you're focused, serious and confident in yourself.

Killing jokes

What's the quickest way to kill a joke well you make someone repeat themselves. If everyone has heard the punchline once, it won't be nearly as funny. The second time use this trick: if someone makes a joke at your expense, act like you didn't hear them, ask them to repeat themselves and when they do, their joke will fall flat on its face and you'll come out on top.

Waiting with dignity

When does an interview starts? When you walk into the room or when you enter the property? As soon as people can judge you, they will. What you do in the waiting room is almost as important as the interview itself. Let's say you take a loud phone call in the waiting room. Your new boss isn't around to hear you, but the receptionist is. Even if your interview goes well, the receptionist may pass this information on to their boss and you may miss an opportunity. So, be respectful and dignified at every stage of the process. Don't take calls, play games or watch videos in the waiting room. Instead, bring a book or a newspaper, review your resume or take a few extra minutes to learn about their company.

Watch their hands

The face is the most expressive part of the body, but the hands are a close second. If you want to know how someone is feeling, pay attention to their hands. Big gestures and movement tell you they're feeling energetic and confident. Intertwined fingers and tight fists show stress and tension. They may be trying to play it cool with a calm smile, but their hands will tell you everything you need to know.

Use your hands

When you understand hand gestures, you can use them to your advantage. Let's say you want to appear more confident. You know that big gestures and movement show confidence, so incorporate those motions into your body language. For tips on confident hand gestures, watch any great public speaker. They expertly use gestures to communicate power, knowledge and authority. With a little practice, you can follow in their footsteps.

Admit weakness

Interviewers commonly ask: what is your greatest weakness? Many people dodge the question by turning their weakness into a strength. For example, you may say, you try too hard or you care too much, but interviewers have heard these answers a thousand times before. Instead of dodging the question, expose one of your weaknesses, give an honest answer, then explain all the ways that you're trying to improve. Tell them about new risks that you've taken or new habits that you formed. By exposing a real weakness, you make yourself more relatable. You humanize yourself while showing interviewers that you have a growth mindset .

Persuasive reasoning

How can you convince someone to do a favor. Instead of asking for something, explain your reasoning. Tell them why this favor is important. When you explain your motivation, you become infinitely more persuasive. People are more likely to help you simply because they agree with your motivation.

Bonding over secrets

What's the quickest way to connect with people? Tell them a secret. Something short, sweet and personal. Secrets like these build instant bonds. When you confide in someone, you're saying that you trust them. When you trust them, they're more likely to trust you. So, use this track to your advantage bond with people by telling them interesting secrets. One secret may earn you a friend for life.

Physical tension

Let's say someone gives you an answer that you don't like. How do you get them to change their mind? Sometimes, body language is all you need. So, the next time someone gives you an unsatisfying response, I want you to try this: Shift your body language slightly, make eye contact and remain silent. This powerful combination puts them on the back foot. Your body language tells the other person to appeal to you. The silence creates pressure and tension and before you know it, they're changing their answer, even if you never said a word.

The recency effect

How do you stand out from the crowd? Let's say you're interviewing 20 applicants with the same impressive qualifications. Who are you going to remember the best. You'll remember the people you interview last, right? This is called a recency bias. You unconsciously favor the applicants closest in your memory. So, use this trick to make a lasting impression. If you want to stand out, be the last in line.

The primacy effect

If you can't go last, then try going first instead. We all have a recency bias, but we also have a primacy bias. In other words, you favor the people who go first too. The first applicants seem to be the most impressive because they presented information first. They set the standard. They were the first names you heard. So, they're going to stand out in your memory. So, you can go first or you can go last, just avoid the middle.

Infectious enthusiasm

How do you get other people excited about something? To energize other people, you need to energize yourself. Excitement is a lot like laughter, it's contagious. When one person gets excited, everyone gets excited. So, use your energy to motivate other people. Most of the time a little enthusiasm is all it takes.

Confident posture

How should you communicate confidence? Your speech is important, but good body language is really all you need. Sitting up straight, for example, communicates internal and external power. You take up more space, you look and feel more alert. Others will view you as powerful and intimidating. Small changes like these create a general impression and that impression changes how people perceive you and how you perceive yourself. So, start with confident body language and the rest will follow.

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If you want to stop procrastinating, you need to learn how. Many folks simply don’t have the motivation to stop procrastinating. Maybe they didn’t watch that Ted Talk or listen to that podcast. Whatever the reason, there are some simple tricks that will finally help you stop procrastination once and for all. Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about three simple tricks to stop procrastinating.

Procrastinate with feeling

This is going to sound strange, so just bear with me. What is a consistent and effective trick to stop procrastinating? To procrastinate less, you need to procrastinate more. Don't worry, I'll explain. Just think about the last time you procrastinated, did you abandon your work or did you pretend to be working when you actually weren't?

Most people don't plan on procrastinating. When they procrastinate, they're trying to restart their work, but distractors keep pulling them away and this push and pull can go on for hours. In the end, nothing gets done.

Let's say you're supposed to be doing research you have. Your research open in one tab and social media open in the other. You glance back and forth, so your attention is split. You're not really doing research, but you're not focusing on your social media either. Let's call this fifty percent procrastinating. When you procrastinate like this, you're making the problem worse, you're alternating between your work and your distractors without accomplishing either one.

50 percent procrastination can be exhausting. You tell yourself that you're working, but you're really not. You tell yourself that you're procrastinating, but you're not doing that either. It's a never-ending cycle of denial, ridicule and guilt and those emotions can drive you crazy. So, stop procrastinating with half your energy.

If you want to procrastinate, go all the way. Commit 100 to your procrastination or just don't do it at all. If you don't want to work, stop pretending to work, close your projects, stand up from your desk, go into another room and separate yourself from your workspace.

During this time, don't think about your work and don't feel guilty that you're not working. Just enjoy the time you spend away from your projects. Right now, you're craving a distraction, but craving a distraction is like craving ice cream. If you're craving something, satisfy that craving and it will go away. When you procrastinate 100 percent, you successfully satisfy that craving and when that happens, you start craving something else, work.

Now's the perfect time to dive back in your projects and when I say dive back in, I mean really dive in. Just like your procrastination, you give 100 percent of yourself to your work or you don't work at all. Over time, your brain will create a boundary between your work and your distractors. When you separate them, you waste less of your time. 100 percent procrastination actually increases your work ethic and your productivity.

The novelty of procrastination wears off faster. You're less likely to waste time when you're not putting something off. Distractors like social media lose their appeal because you're not avoiding your work. This weird trick ultimately increases the amount of work you get done.

If you alternate between 100 percent work and 100 percent procrastination, you're using your work time and downtime more effectively. You feel more productive when you work, because you chose to work and on the flip side you feel more relaxed when you procrastinate because you chose to procrastinate.

So, don't waste any more time pretending to work. Commit one way or the other. Become a better procrastinator to improve your work ethic. 

Plan around procrastination

There are two kinds of workers: the first thrives under pressure. They need that urgency to motivate and energize them. The second panics under pressure. When expectations get too high, they crumble under the weights. Which one describes you? If you don't know, just think about your work and study habits because the way you work also describes the way you procrastinate.

Just take this situation: student A and student B are studying for a test in two weeks. Student A works better under pressure, while student B panics before a deadline. Both students procrastinate until the last 24 hours before their test, but only one of these students is actually procrastinating, is it student A or student B? Student A is not procrastinating, they're playing to their strengths. This student is what we call an active procrastinator.

This comes from a 2017 study in The Journal Of Personality And Individual Differences. An active procrastinator delays their work to improve their performance. Student A works best under pressure, so they choose to start later. On the surface, it looks like procrastination, but the quality of their work increases. Student B is a passive procrastinator. They're ignoring their strengths by putting off their work. They should start working early because they struggle under pressure, but they choose not to. They delay their work and their productivity suffers.

What does this mean for you? If you thrive under pressure, then procrastinate with purpose. Be an active procrastinator, force yourself into high pressure positions and challenge yourself to succeed. If you don't work well under pressure, then avoid high pressure situations. Otherwise, the pressure will impact your performance. Find pockets of time where the pressure is lowest and do your work stress-free.

In other words, identify what kind of procrastinator you are, then schedule your work around your  procrastination. If you procrastinate at the right times, you can be productive no matter what you're working on.

Fail on purpose

A big project may feel impossible. You're standing at the starting line, but the finish line looks unbearably far away. As you stare across this massive distance, you feel discouraged, you think about giving up and most of the time, you do.

Many people procrastinate because they're scared of the distance. Just think about a challenging project, like writing an essay. Are you afraid of writing one word? No. Are you afraid of writing one paragraph? Probably not, but writing an entire essay feels like a huge undertaking. So, you hesitate, procrastinate and avoid your responsibilities.

The more you avoid something, the scarier it gets. At first, your essay feels like running a mile difficult, but doable. After a week of procrastination, one mile turns into 10 miles and after a month the finish line feels hundreds of miles away and you lose hope, but there's one weird trick you can use to stop procrastinating. This trick will help you overcome the immense distance from start to finish. So, instead of looking at the finish line, look straight at the ground.

In other words, don't think about finishing your project, don't think about your end goal or how much works required. If you want to stop procrastinating, there's only one thing you need to worry about: the challenge that's right in front of you; the first word you write, the first step you take and the first obstacle you face.

When tackling a big project, the first thing you is making a plan. You try to solve all your problems at the beginning. Naturally, you feel overwhelmed. You're overwhelmed by the work, the challenges and the possibilities. Instead of jumping over one hurdle at a time, you're trying to overcome every hurdle at once and that's a recipe for disaster.

This common practice is no different from perfectionism. You want to smooth every bump in the road before you get there, but this weird trick will change the way you think. You're no longer planning every solution before you start, you're overcoming hurdles as you encounter them and you're solving your problems in real time.

This trick helps with more than just procrastination, it also improves the quality of your work. Planning to some degree ensures that you're moving in the right direction. You should plan your work before you get started, but don't expect your plan to be foolproof.

No matter how much time you spend planning, you'll never predict the future. You never know what opportunities will come knocking. You never know when a roadblock will ruin your plan. When these things do happen, your plan will change. You'll have to set new goals, think of creative solutions and adapt to the situation.

Don't worry about planning every single step. Don't worry about getting from start to finish. Don't panic about writing an entire essay or accomplishing a long-term goal. Instead, try this: form a loose plan. Just stop thinking 10 steps ahead and face your first obstacle. Right now, the first problem is all that matters.

As you start making progress, remind yourself that you don't have to finish today. You don't have to be perfect and it's more than okay to fail. In fact, some people fail on purpose. Instead of trying to be perfect, they do a terrible job. They let their work suffer. They create something they would never show to anyone, because perfection is intimidating, but imperfection is not.

Anyone can do a mediocre job, so that's all you have to do. When you create a terrible first draft, you're overcoming the hardest part of the process. You're no longer paralyzed at the starting line. Now, you're fighting through the middle and that's a good feeling.

So, get started. Be awful. Create something you know is below your standards and when you're done, take a second pass, maybe a third. As you fix the problems, you'll realize something: the finish line wasn't nearly as far as you thought.

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There are some morning habits that can really ruin your day if you keep doing them. These bad habits are classified under “avoid at all costs”. If your daily habits line up with these 7 points, you may need to rethink the way you start your morning. Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about seven morning habits that can ruin your day.

Sleep negativity

Do you feel well rested in the morning? For many, the answer is no. You may feel tired every morning because one bad habit may be ruining your sleep and the rest of your day. Let's say you got eight hours of sleep last night, but you tell yourself you didn't sleep long enough, maybe you complain about waking up in the middle of the night. Either way, you're convinced that you need more sleep.

Complaining about your sleep undermines the hours that you spent sleeping. This comes from a 2014 study in the journal of experimental psychology. Negativity devalues a good night's sleep. In other words, by complaining about your sleep, you're making yourself more tired.

In this study, every participant slept a healthy number of hours. In the morning, researchers gave each participant a random sleep score. A score of 28 represented a long and deep sleep cycle. On the other hand, a score of 16 represented a night of tossing and turning. After receiving their sleep scores, every participant took a word association test. Who do you think performed better, the 28 group or the 16 group? The 28 groups significantly outperformed the 16 group. Even though both groups slept the same amount, the 16 group had a negative perception of their sleep and that perception decreased their performance.

So, what can we learn from this study? If you complain about your sleep, your brain will believe you. So, stay positive about your sleep cycle. Each morning tell yourself that you feel rested and energized. If you actively change your perception, your body and your brain will follow.

Skipping breakfast

Countless studies have shown the benefits of a healthy breakfast, yet so many people skip their first meal of the day. In a survey of 14 000 people, only 34 ate breakfast on a daily basis, the other 66 percent delay their first meal of the day, starving their bodies of food until lunchtime.

If you miss breakfast, your body continues to crave the same amount of food. Many people eat over sized lunches and snack throughout the afternoon. Their portion control flies out the window and they energize their bodies at the wrong times. All of these things can ruin your day. So, how do you change this bad habit?

Just think about the two most common reasons that people skip breakfast: time and hunger. Some people rush through their mornings. They have busy schedules, so they don't have time to cook a morning meal. Others feel nauseous or simply stuffed in the morning. Their stomachs feel restless, so they have no interest in breakfast.

To navigate both of these issues, experts recommend spreading out your morning meal. So, instead of one big breakfast, just break your meal into three short mobile snacks. Just start with a piece of fruit on the go, wait 30 minutes to an hour and then add a bit of protein. Later in the morning, if you're low on energy, finish your meal with healthy carbs and fats like toast or peanut butter.

By spreading out your meal, it becomes easy accessible and gentle on your stomach. So, stop skipping breakfast and start spreading out your first meal of the day. Your energy, your attitude and your productivity will be glad you did.

Sedentary mornings

How many hours do you spend sitting at your desk? In 2019, the average american sat for 6.5 hours every day. That number is only going up. In the middle of your work day, there's little you can do to energize your body, but the mornings offer a perfect opportunity to animate your routine.

Most people are sedentary at work and in the mornings, you may spend your morning lying in bed or sitting on the couch, but this bad habit worsens your sedentary lifestyle and it leaves you feeling sluggish throughout the day.

Luckily, a little activity makes a big difference. Just take a short walk around your neighborhood. Do some yoga in a quiet room. If you really want to get your blood pumping, go for a run or challenge yourself with calisthenics.

By moving in the mornings, you amplify your body's performance, you increase your circulation, you speed up your metabolism, you boost your energy and develop physical confidence. If you're tired of living a sedentary lifestyle, infuse your mornings with energy and action.

Changing clothing

How long do you spend getting dressed in the morning? Do you change outfits multiple times? This bad habit affects millions of people on a daily basis. Before work, you may try on outfit after outfit, but nothing feels right. Every time you look in the mirror, you don't like what you see. The problem isn't your clothes, it's this bad habit.

By changing outfits over and over, you're crippling your own confidence, you're telling yourself that you don't like your appearance, you're decreasing your physical satisfaction and for some people, this bad habit is like body shaming. Each time you switch outfits, you're damaging your mental image of yourself, but your morning should develop your confidence. It's a time for productive decisions, not worry and self-doubt.

Do yourself a favor. Pick out your clothes the night before. Lay them somewhere in your room and no matter what you chose, stick with it. This new habit will save you time and teaches you to like the way you look. No matter what you're wearing, you'll feel more satisfied with your appearance and that satisfaction gives you a much needed boost of confidence for the rest of the day.

Daily dread

Do you feel irritated in the morning? Do you spend the week wishing for the weekend? Morning negativity can be a very destructive habit. If you're negative in the morning, you're bound to be negative during the day. That means: less motivation, stifled inspiration and a lack of confidence.

Don't spend your mornings dreading the day to come. Instead, find reasons to look forward to your day. Think of one reason why today is going to be great. Cross a goal off your to-do list. Make time to see your loved ones. Get started on a healthy habit you've been procrastinating. Every day, give yourself a reason to look forward. If you expect your day to be amazing, there's a good chance it will be.

Driving in circles

Imagine taking a road trip to the Grand Canyon. You get in your car, you start driving, but you don't know where the Grand Canyon is. Should you drive straight and hope for the best or should you plan your route, so you don't get lost? This bad habit is like driving to the Grand Canyon without a map.

Many people begin each day with no sense of direction. You don't organize your time. You don't create a schedule. You don't set goals that you want to accomplish. Instead, you let the day happen naturally. Now, this may sound relaxing, but without a plan, you're sure to get lost.

On the road, countless detours can lead you in the wrong direction. You may drive in circles for hours, making zero progress. That's why planning is important. You make a plan before you leave. Your plan ensures you get where you want to go and in the same way, you should make a plan in the morning, because that plan will guide the rest of your day.

Planning doesn't have to be complicated. It can be as simple as this. Think of three small goals that you want to accomplish, then accomplish those goals through the day. They may be chores, habits, projects or personal passions, but make sure you're moving forward day after day. Make sure you're getting closer to your goal instead of driving in circles.

Bottling anxiety

Are you anxious in the morning? Do you feel like one big ball of stress? With a long day in front of you, you may feel unsure of yourself. You may doubt your ability. You may worry about failing. Those nerves keep you from concentrating or performing at your best. So, how do you get rid of your anxiety in the morning?

Many people stuff their thoughts and feelings down hoping they'll disappear, but they never do. Instead, their anxiety piles up and mutates in the back of their brains, it influences your thinking and steals your motivation. It resurfaces when you least expect it, getting worse and worse over time.

So, don't stuff down your anxiety in the mornings. It's okay to feel anxious at the start of your day, but bottling up your feelings is not the answer. Instead, express those feelings. Pour all of that negativity out of your brain. If left unchecked, self-doubt will swirl around you like a toxic storm inside your brain. So, get those thoughts out into the open. You may realize just how unrealistic they are.

Many times, we get scared of unrealistic situations. In our heads, they seem very possible. So, express your nerves, fears and doubts out loud or try writing them down using a journal. A journal offers you a safe space to talk through your anxiety. You can say anything. You can make mistakes. You can sound like a fool. There are no wrong answers as long as you express your emotions.

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Are you a genius? These are the signs of high intelligence. You might also call this: the signs of a brilliant person. If your brain power is off the charts, you might just be a truly brilliant person and if there’s one thing a genius needs, it’s validation. Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about 10 signs of a truly brilliant person.

Intellectual flexibility

Do you know someone who's a walking encyclopedia, someone who riddles off facts like the back of their hand? These people seem to know everything about everything. We see them as highly intelligent. They're admired for their intellect, but many encyclopedic people aren't as smart as they seem.

Our society frames intelligence as something logical, scientific and numerical. People with good memories are treated like brilliant innovators, but memory can be misleading. Memorizing facts doesn't make you an intelligent person. You may be knowledgeable and well informed, but not necessarily smart.

Memory is one small aspect of intelligence. Many encyclopedic people struggle when you push them outside their areas of expertise, because they can no longer rely on their memories. Brilliant people thrive across the board, they don't know everything about everything, they make mistakes and they get facts wrong, but their thinking is flexible and it's sharp.

Brilliant people can solve a wide variety of problems tackle unknowns and synthesize new information. They innovate solutions instead of mimicking others. Someone may seem to know everything, but truly brilliant people have more than just a good memory.

The circle of discipline

How does self-control relate to intelligence? The two seem like entirely different subjects, but one can hardly exist without the other. Self-control builds your intelligence and intelligence improves your self-control. So, how do you know if someone is truly brilliant? They have an astounding sense of discipline, they look into the future before making decisions, they weigh their long-term goals and ambitions and they have the forethought to control their behavior when it counts.

Intelligent people wage an active war against their bad habits. They're always looking for new ways to be productive, they shape new routines, they incorporate motivational habits and they reject devices that bring them down. Brilliant people are often patient and disciplined just as disciplined people are often sharp and wise.

Thriving in solitude

Do intelligent people socialize? Are they more or less social than the average person? The answer is a little confusing. For now, let's think about intelligence as a scale from zero to one hundred. People below 50 struggle socially. They have a difficult time understanding others which creates conflict in their social lives.

People between 50 and 90 are usually successful in the social world. They can navigate a wide variety of environments and use their emotional intelligence to bond with others, but what about people at the top of the spectrum? From 90 to 100, there's a significant drop in social success.

A 2016 study published in the British journal of psychology found that brilliant people struggle to maintain social relationships. So, what's wrong? Why aren't brilliant people making friends? With so much brain power, socializing should be easy.

Brilliant people can form friendships and relationships, but they prefer to be alone. Highly intelligent people thrive on their own. They like to socialize every once in a while, but most brilliant people are die hard introverts.

Communication, confusion

Introversion is not the only reason brilliant people spend their time alone. If you're a brilliant person, this may sound familiar. Extremely intelligent people are misunderstood on a daily basis. When they communicate with others, their thoughts fly over people's heads. We're not talking about philosophical questions and scientific mysteries, we're talking about basic communication.

Brilliant people think differently than the rest of the world. They notice different patterns, they use different lines of logic, they observe prioritize and respond to things that others just might overlook. A brilliant person may try, for example, to explain their emotions to a friend, yet their friend doesn't understand 90 of what they're saying.

These misunderstandings can be frustrating and lonely, that's why brilliant people spend their time with other brilliant people. The average person just doesn't understand them, but other intelligent people do. This is another sign that you or someone you know is truly brilliant.

If you click with someone who's hyper intelligent, you're likely in the same boat. Hyper-intelligent people attract each other, because brilliant people understand each other better than anyone.

Challenges in change

How do you react to change? Do you stubbornly resist or do you embrace change when it comes? Brilliant people understand that change is unavoidable. Careers change, friendships change, environments change, but why can't things stay the same? Why do brilliant people like change?

Change exposes us to new experiences. Change teaches you lessons you never would have learned otherwise. It's comfortable and easy to keep things the way they are. Change is a challenge, but brilliant people love to be challenged. They're never satisfied, they never settle and they're always searching for opportunities to grow.

The humility of failure

Can you admit when you're wrong? Are you embarrassed by your mistakes? Most of the world gets defensive when they fail. There's a common misconception that failing means you're stupid, weak or lazy. Society assumes that all successful people are intelligent, while anyone who fails is not. that just isn't true, but the possibility still scares us.

Most people are terrified of failure. They don't want to look stupid, they're worried the world will think less of them and they might be right, but brilliant people know a single truth about success. Every successful person was once a failure. They failed again and again for many years until finally they found success. They became brilliant not because of their memory problem solving or cleverness, their most brilliant quality was their humility.

A brilliant person owns and admits their mistakes. A brilliant person takes risks, but recognizes when they've lost. Most of all, a brilliant person doesn't view failure as an attack on their intelligence. Instead, they see failure as a chance to improve and succeed the next time around.

Freedom in diversity

Brilliant people are always tinkering. One week, they're diving into the analogs of history. The next, they're exploring complex mechanics or learning a new language. To a brilliant person, these projects are a form of freedom. They satisfy their curiosity and expand their horizons. Each project widens their perspective by challenging them to do something they've never done before.

Over the years brilliant people accrue a huge bank of knowledge, skills and talents. A project may only last a week, but that knowledge can last a lifetime. Down the road, brilliant people apply their diverse interests in fascinating and innovative ways. Their projects bleed into their work and their passions flourish fueled by dozens upon dozens of miscellaneous ideas.

Does this sound like someone you know? Maybe you're the kind of person who has too many hobbies. If the answer is yes, you or someone you know may be truly brilliant.

Insightful listening

Do intelligent people spend more time talking or listening? We expect intelligent people to talk more than they listen. After all, they have the most intelligent things to say, but the truth is: brilliant people spend most of their time with their mouth closed. Brilliant people are extraordinary listeners. They could ramble and monologue, but instead, they let others talk. They're receptive to new perspectives. They're quiet and patient, no matter what subject you want to talk about.

Now, what separates a brilliant listener from any other quiet person? It's their questions. When a brilliant person finally does open their mouth, they re-ignite the conversation with insightful and stimulating questions. They don't just listen to your points, they build upon them.

Brilliant people make great conversationalists. They don't mind when other people talk about themselves, intelligent people can find an interesting angle anywhere. Best of all, a brilliant person makes you feel interested and involved. They don't talk at you or above you, they talk with you, exchanging ideas and covering new ground.

So, think about your favorite people to talk to. Why do you love talking to them? Are they active and insightful listeners? If they are, they may be highly intelligent.

Bizarre exploration

We talked about how many projects a brilliant person has, but the nature of those projects is even stranger. It's common for highly intelligent people to adopt obscure and mismatched hobbies. Intelligent people enjoy exploring untouched and bizarre subjects. They're drawn to niche interests because these hobbies spark their curiosity.

Most strange hobbies are also creative, complicated and confusing. They're done best in solitude and require lots of research. All of these things attract intelligent people. So, don't be surprised if the smartest people you know have some strange hobbies.

The price of perceptiveness

Many brilliant people have exceptional observational skills. Paired with high emotional intelligence, they're perceptive in a way most people are not. This perceptiveness is one of their greatest strengths and one of their greatest weaknesses.

On the strong side, brilliant people notice cues and signals that others overlook. They're the first to identify changes in their environment. They'll notice subtle shifts in mood, atmosphere or body language. These observations give them a social advantage and help them better understand the world around them, but perceptiveness comes at a price.

Intelligent people are labeled too emotional, too anxious and too sensitive. If you notice too much, others assume that you're looking too deep. Even if you're right, people will not understand your observations or feelings. So, if this sounds familiar, the problem isn't you. You're not too emotional, too anxious or too sensitive, you're just more intelligent than most.

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Emotional intelligence is a form of intelligence that allows you to direct your thoughts and behavior according to your own emotions. How you master your emotions and sustain a balanced mind? Is it possible to become more emotionally intelligent and thus boost your emotional IQ? Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about emotional intelligence and how to master your emotions.

Reinterpret your symptoms

What happens to your body when you're nervous? Your breathing quickens, your heart pounds in your chest, your stomach ties itself in nuts. When you notice these changes in your body, how do you feel? Most people interpret stress in a negative way. They associate physical changes with emotional anxiety, but is that really what it means?

Let's say you're about to give a speech. You feel your heart rate speed up, so you assume that you're nervous. You assume you're not prepared for this challenge. You start to doubt yourself all because your body seems to be panicking, but it's not. You associate these physical symptoms with anxiety, but your body isn't nervous, it's excited.

Now, think about other times when your heart rate speeds up. It beats quickly on first dates the same way it does before a test. Your stomach turns during presentations and on roller coasters. Your breathing changes when you're watching a scary movie even if you love to be scared. So, what does this mean for your emotional intelligence? Can you use this knowledge to your advantage? Can you rethink your physical symptoms to master your emotions?

Let's go back to our example. Before giving your speech, you realize how quickly your heart's beating. Instead of assuming that you're nervous, you realize that your body is just excited. Suddenly, your mindset changes. So, instead of doubting yourself, you get excited too. You gain confidence and your motivation grows. When you recognize that your body isn't panicking, you can perform at your best.

This strategy comes from a 2010 study in the journal of experimental social psychology. Researchers wanted to see how rethinking physical symptoms affects your performance. They tested this on a group of college graduates who they split into two categories group. One took a high-stakes test without any interference from researchers. Group two, on the other hand, received a lesson on rethinking physical symptoms. They were told that physical changes show excitement instead of fear. After this lesson, they took the same test as group one.

Do you think their new mindset affected their performance? Group two experienced less stress and scored higher than group one. By rethinking their symptoms, they stayed in control of their body and their emotions. So, use this trick the next time you get nervous. Re-interpret your physical symptoms. Get excited alongside your body and by changing your thinking, you stay confident and in control.

Recognize your spectrum

If you have high emotional intelligence, you recognize a wider range of emotions than the average person. You understand how individual emotions differ from each other. You can identify for example how anger is different from jealousy. You know how joy differs from satisfaction.

Emotionally intelligent people understand a broad spectrum of emotions. Thanks to their emotional vocabulary. So, what is an emotional vocabulary? It's the language you use to describe how you feel. The vast majority of people know only two words to describe their emotions. They're either feeling good or they're feeling bad. Neither of these terms capture the many different emotions that you may be feeling. Without the right vocabulary, you don't know what to call these feelings, so you don't know how to understand them.

If you want to master your emotions, you need to expand your vocabulary. Don't describe yourself with simple umbrella terms, like good or bad. Be specific get to the heart of your problem by distinguishing each individual feeling.

Let's say you have a bad feeling. You know you're feeling negative, but why are you feeling negative? Maybe you made a mistake and that mistake made you vulnerable and weak. This emotion is called embarrassment. Let's go one step further. What if you're more than just embarrassed? You made a mistake and that was embarrassing, but then someone made fun of you. Now, you're feeling something worse than embarrassment. You're feeling attacked, vulnerable and ashamed.

Together these feelings create an emotion called, humiliation. Every emotion has these unique characteristics. There are dozens of positive and negative emotions and each one differs in small, but significant ways. So, they need to be explored individually. When you get specific with your emotions, you understand the way you think and feel. You recognize personal patterns. You discover deeper issues and you learn how to regulate your emotions.

This comes from a 2001 study in the journal cognition and emotion. Researchers explain that emotional regulation correlates with emotional distinction. In other words, people who recognize specific emotions can regulate those emotions.

What happens when you regulate your emotions? You may control the negative feelings that cause you pain. You may encourage the positive feelings that leave you inspired. So, take the time to explore your feelings and learn some new words along the way. As you expand your vocabulary, you may discover feelings you never knew existed.

Diversify your experiences

Where does emotional intelligence come from? The simple answer is experience. Your experience is widen your perspective. They teach you new things by exposing you to the unknown. You can only learn so much inside your little bubble. If you spend your life hiding in your comfort zone, you'll never know what the world has to offer.

There are millions and millions of lifestyles, opinions and perspectives out there. You'll never experience them all, but the more you understand, the wider your perspective will become. That's why many travelers have high emotional intelligence. Their experiences are like a window into the lives of others. Jumping from country to country, they accumulate perspectives that shape their emotions.

Even if you can't travel the world, you can still collect new experiences. You can read books. You can watch movies. You can learn new languages and try new foods. There are all kinds of opportunities out there, but there's one question we haven't answered. How exactly does your experience impact your emotional intelligence?

Experience creates understanding and understanding creates empathy. You learn why others think the way they do. You get a better understanding of different people and personalities. Empathy lies at the heart of emotional intelligence, but you need perspective to understand others. Without perspective, your understanding will always be limited. There's one more big advantage to broadening your horizons. Experience creates empathy, but it also defuses rumination or overthinking.

According to a 2015 study from the proceedings of the national academy of sciences of the United States Of america, experiences, especially those in nature, impact your mental state by reducing negative activity in the brain. These experiences create a positive state of mind allowing you to escape toxic patterns. So, if you want to master your emotions, have a new experience. Step outside of your comfort zone. Walk fearlessly into the unknown because there's a world out there waiting to be understood.

Reinforce your standards

Do you have high standards for yourself? Do you cut other people too much slack. This contradiction creates emotional discord for countless people. Say you expect yourself to be trustworthy. You work hard to keep every single promise you make, but what happens when someone breaks a promise they made to you? Do you express your frustration or do you just hold it in?

Most people don't want to criticize or upset other people, so they keep their emotions bottled up. If you have high standards for yourself, you should maintain those standards for the people in your life, because people with high standards make the best leaders, they have clear expectations and bring out the best in other people.

I'm not saying you should attack or criticize people when they fail. In fact, you should do just the opposite. When people fail be the first person to support and encourage them. By empowering others, you also empower yourself, you take a more confident and active role in your life, you stop bottling up your feelings and you gain control over your emotions.

Limit your reactivity

How do you respond to conflict? Do you react with the first feeling that pops into your head? Your first emotion is often unproductive and impulsive. When you react instantly, you may respond in a way that contradicts how you really feel. In the moment, your emotions burst out, your anger overflows and your emotions cloud your judgment and in the end you feel nothing, but regret.

People with high emotional intelligence control their reactivity. When they're faced with a problem, they don't respond right away. They take some extra time to think and during that time, their emotions settle down, those flaring impulsive feelings dissipate, so they can think with a cool head.

Because of this calculated pause, emotionally intelligent people develop strong conflict resolution skills. Instead of creating conflict, they neutralize conflict, they mediate reasonable compromises and help other people communicate.

So, if you want to develop emotional intelligence, control your reactivity. Pause whenever your emotions get the best of you. In the moment, you don't have to react. Excuse yourself and take a break. Give your emotions the chance to settle down and when you're calm and clear-headed, you'll give a response that you can stand behind. Not only will you avoid conflict, but you'll develop better control over your emotions. It may be difficult at first. Your emotions may get the best of you from time to time, but that's okay. Keep trying to stay in control. Keep forcing yourself to pause and think and with practice, you'll learn to master your emotions.

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In order to sleep better and wake up early, you need to learn about the circadian rhythm - and why it’s important to wake up at a regular time - such as 5 am. To sleep better at night and then ultimately wake up early, we have a few helpful tips to get you started on your journey towards a more rested and enjoyable sleeping life. Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about how to sleep better and wake up early.

Timed light exposure

Do you like working in the dark many people hide inside during the day you close the curtains you shut off the lights and you enjoy the quiet comfort of your dark room but every time you turn off the lights you're confusing your brain daytime exposure to light has a huge impact on your sleep cycle a 1993 study from the journal of the american geriatrics society found that timed light exposure significantly changes your sleep participants who experienced bright light during the day saw huge improvements in their sleep efficiency why because light is one of many ways that the brain governs your sleep cycle when the world is bright and sunny the brain feels awake and alert your brain knows that it's daytime so your energy and productivity remain high but sitting in darkness confuses your brain it doesn't know what time of day it is it loses track of your sleep cycle and that confusion leaves you feeling groggy and tired throughout the day so open the curtains in the morning turn on the lights during the day and keep your brain awake by saving the darkness for later.

Napping routine

Do you nap during the day napping seems like a great way to ruin your sleep cycle but that's not always true studies have shown that napping helps you sleep better and wake up earlier but only if you nap the right way many people nap whenever they feel tired well let's say you took a nap at four o'clock yesterday you came home after a stressful day of work and you fell right to sleep but today you got tired much earlier instead of napping at four you took a nap around noon are these naps going to help or hurt your sleep cycle your sleep cycle follows a biological pattern called a circadian rhythm the brain uses this rhythm to wake up and fall asleep at the same time every day that's why it's so important to keep your sleep cycle on a consistent schedule the more regular your sleep routine is the easier it will be to fall asleep if you nap at different times every day it's going to throw off your circadian rhythm according to a 2011 study in the journal behavioral neuroscience irregular naps damage sleep quality they also interfere with important cognitive processes like stored memories which happens during your sleep cycle if you're going to nap during the day try to nap at the same time each day your brain wakes and sleeps on a schedule so consistency is key

Afternoon caffeine

It's late in the afternoon and you're still working you need to finish a big project by tomorrow morning but your energy levels are fading fast so to keep yourself awake you decide to make a cup of coffee or down an energy drink you get a big burst of energy and you finish the last of your work but what happens when you try to fall asleep countless people use caffeine to counteract this afternoon slump after a busy morning your motivation starts to fade later in the day a boost of energy seems like a recipe for success but that second cup of coffee is destroying your sleep cycle the problem is caffeine stays in your system much longer than you think it gives you an energy boost that lasts a few hours but the actual caffeine remains in your bloodstream for six to eight hours after consumption so if you're sensitive to caffeine that number can climb even higher with caffeine in your bloodstream your sleep suffers significantly according to a 2013 study in the journal of clinical sleep medicine researchers found that caffeine damages your sleep more than six hours after consumption participants in this study experience significant sleep disruptions that includes trouble falling asleep difficulty staying asleep and grogginess after waking up so don't rely on caffeine to give you a boost of energy in the afternoon instead try a shorter yet effective alternative take a walk around your neighborhood or eat energy boosting snacks like almonds apples and bananas these healthier habits will give you the boost you're looking for without ruining your sleep cycle.

Unravel your stress

Do you find yourself working before bed do you fall asleep full of tension and anxiety stress has a major impact on sleep quality and quantity before you fall asleep your brain needs time to relax and settle down but stress stands in the way of your relaxation it fills your brain with worries and doubts which keep your brain tense and wired that's why stress relieving activities are so important before bed if you live a stressful lifestyle a relaxing nighttime routine could transform your sleep it can unravel your stress before bed and that way your brain can fall asleep smoothly and peacefully so what is a relaxing nighttime routine look like there are countless different ways to create your relaxing routine some people get lost in a good book others take a warm bath and listen to soothing music you can also practice deep breathing meditate or combine multiple of these activities together it doesn't really matter what you do as long as you're relaxed and consistent so find one or more activities that soothe your stress and use that activity like a ritual to unwind every night not only will your ritual help you relax it will consistently signal your brain that it's time to sleep.

Gradual adjustments

Are you unhappy with your sleep schedule do you want to go to sleep and wake up earlier than you do right now there are countless benefits to waking up early from higher energy to greater concentration the brain performs at its best in the first half of the day anyone can take advantage of this morning boost but first you need to adjust your sleep cycle and that means waking up earlier and going to sleep earlier alright let's say you normally wake up at 10 or 11 am but you want to try waking up at 6 00 am the worst thing you can do is to switch your schedule all at once many people make this mistake they expect their brains to suddenly adapt to a big change in their sleep cycle but this big change comes back to bite them instead of feeling energetic they end up feeling drowsy and unproductive the brain enjoys consistency in your sleep cycle so use this consistency to your advantage don't dramatically change your sleep cycle in one night instead adjust your sleep cycle over time let's say tonight you just shift your sleep cycle by 30 minutes this small change is much easier on your body and it's a whole lot less exhausting so start with 30 minutes and then gradually move your schedule when 30 minutes feels comfortable try an hour and then 90 minutes and then two hours little by little you're giving your brain the opportunity to adjust alongside you you're not just waking up earlier you're teaching your brain to feel energized and comfortable in the mornings.

Avoid your bed

Do you do anything other than sleep in your bed many people check emails browse social media and watch tv in bed your mattress is comfortable your pillows are soft your sheets are silky and it's incredibly tempting to lay in bed throughout the day but this bad habit can impact your sleep cycle your brain creates mental associations between places and behaviors for example you're more likely to be productive sitting at your desk than sitting on your couch your brain associates your desk with work so sitting at your desk improves your mindset in the same way you want your brain to associate your bed with sleep if you build a strong mental association simply lying in bed will help you fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer each time you work browse or watch tv in bed you're weakening that mental association you're teaching your brain that your bed isn't just for sleeping so try to avoid your bed throughout the day save that feeling of warmth and comfort for the end of the day when you're ready for bed and if you can create a strong mental association the comfort of your bed will lull you into a deep restful sleep.

Restless breaks

The vast majority of people have experienced delayed sleep latency in other words many of us have had trouble falling asleep at night sometimes we lay awake for hours begging our brains to fall asleep we check the clock over and over again and grow more frustrated by the minute the truth is tossing and turning isn't going to help you fall asleep if you've been lying in bed for 20 minutes stop trying get out of bed and find a relaxing activity to do instead if you've crafted a nighttime ritual re-engage with that routine spend 10 or 15 minutes focusing on something other than sleep during this time don't look at the clock don't worry about the sleep you're losing just enjoy 10 to 15 minutes of relaxation your brain is more likely to get tired because you're not stressed about falling asleep so the next time you can't sleep give this method a try once you get out of bed you may find yourself getting tired in no time.

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These are the signs of a toxic person. In general, toxic people have a few behavioral patterns you may be able to identify. So to discover if a friend or partner may be toxic, we recommend these tips. Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about seven signs of a toxic person.

Selfish inflexibility

Does your friend take an interest in your life or is your friendship all about them? Selfish behavior is a very common sign of toxicity. Every friendship should be an equal playing field. Sometimes, you take an interest in them, you ask questions about their life and you bond over their talents and hobbies, but your friends should give you the same treatment, they should take an interest in you, ask questions about you and make an effort to learn about the things you like, but toxic friends only care about themselves.

Let's say your friend loves to go camping. You know they love to camp, so the two of you go together frequently. Even though the outdoors isn't really your thing, you know how much it means to your friend, so you find ways to enjoy the experience, but one weekend, instead of going camping, you want to do something you love. You love going to the beach. Maybe there's a movie you're dying to see. Either way, you tell your friend about how excited you are, but they tell you to go alone.

In other words, they're not willing to compromise their own time to do something you like even though you take an interest in their hobbies. They don't take an interest in yours. If this sounds familiar, your friend may be more selfish than you realize. They're only thinking about themselves and they don't treat you like an equal part of your friendship, but you deserve to be treated better. So, don't settle for this kind of toxic dynamic.

Embarrassing blackmail

Has your friend ever threatened you? Have they held An embarrassing secret over your head? This is a tell-tale sign that someone is toxic. A friendship should foster faith and trust. When you tell your friends something, they should protect your secret and you should never worry that your friend will use that information against you, but toxic friends do.

Let's say you had an embarrassing moment last night. You did and you said some things you're going to regret, but you trust your friend will keep your secrets. Now, of course, your trust is immediately broken. It turns out your friend took a video of you. You tell your friend to get rid of it, but they say they won't unless you do them a favor and when you say no, they threaten to send that video to all your friends.

Toxic people always manipulate their friends. They create trust, they wait for them to let their guard down, then they abuse that vulnerability to satisfy their own agenda. Friends should never blackmail their friends. If you know someone who does this, they're probably toxic.

Vampiric negativity

Is your friend constantly negative? Is every word they say sad or angry? These people are often called spiritual vampires, because they suck the energy out of every situation. No matter where you are, at home, at a restaurant, at a holiday party, spiritual vampires bring the entire room down.

Just imagine you're having a funny conversation with a group of people. You're all telling funny stories, when suddenly one person starts complaining about their own problems. A light-hearted conversation quickly devolves into an awkward rant and just like that one comment can ruin the conversation for everyone. This is how spiritual vampires take their toll.

Most people approach topics with a fun and playful attitude, but vampires are searching for ways to make it about their own negativity. They want to bring everyone down. So, they tank every conversation they're a part of.

So, if you know someone who's constantly negative, don't let them suck the energy out of your life. Now, you may not realize how huge of an effect their negativity has. Not only is it damaging your other relationships, it also takes a toll on your mentality. So, do yourself a favor, spend your time with people who bring you up not bring you down.

Constant judgment

Does your friend criticize everyone? If your friend is toxic, they may be judgmental too. Toxic people are notorious gossips. They spend way too much of their time criticizing other people, especially their friends.

Just imagine someone in your friend group gets a big promotion at work. Let's call him Robert. Everyone in your group is excited for Robert. So, you all celebrate over a nice dinner. As soon as dinner is over, a toxic person may criticize Robert. They'll attack little things, like the way Robert was dressed or try to undermine Robert's accomplishments, because toxic people get jealous of their friend's success and rarely realize how their actions are affecting others. Instead, they think only about ways to boost their own egos at dinner.

Toxic friend didn't feel good about themselves. They may have felt inferior, inadequate or even ignored, because that night, they weren't the center of attention. They were overshadowed by Robert's achievements, so they made themselves feel better by attacking others, but you don't have to sit idly by, no. If you know someone who judges others, speak up, defend your friends and confront those toxic people. Sometimes, they'll change for the better, but if not, it's time to leave this toxic person behind.

Center of the universe

Is your friend the center of their own universe? You'd be surprised how many people think the world revolves around them. They treat every friend like a butler or a servant. They think every stranger admires them. They insist that they should be given every opportunity and they're convinced that no one deserves success more than they do. Not only is this way of thinking delusional, it's incredibly narcissistic.

Now, you may notice these narcissistic friends demand everything, but they give nothing in return. They expect you to be there every time something bad happens. They expect you to have their back no matter what. They expect you to wait on them hand and foot. Every time you prioritize yourself, a toxic friend may tell you that you're a selfish person or a bad friend, but what happens when you're in trouble?

This narcissistic friend is nowhere to be found because they think they're the center of the universe. They think everything revolves around their life. So, they can't spare a minute to think about yours. Don't be another planet in this toxic solar system. If your friend demands everything but gives nothing, you're friends with a toxic person.

Overstepping boundaries

No friendship should cross your personal boundaries. You have a right to space privacy and limitations, but many toxic friends consider themselves above your boundaries. So, they make a habit of crossing them anytime they like.

Friends who ignore your boundaries are very common and very toxic. They think that because of your friendship that they own you, that they don't need to respect your choices, your preferences or limits. They'll walk all over you because they don't value you as an individual.

Let's say you spent the weekend with an old friend. You went on a road trip together. You reminisced about old times and reconnected after a long time apart. The next day, you spend time with a toxic friend of yours. They demand to know every detail about the trip. They want to know what you talked about. They want to know your friend's secrets.

Toxic people keep pressing you for information. Even if you tell them not to, they don't listen to you because they don't respect your boundaries and they don't like that you have a life outside of them. In their mind, you belong to them.

Overstepping boundaries is invasive and inappropriate no matter how good a friends you are. It comes from a place of distrust, insecurity and disrespect. So, don't let your toxic friend ignore your boundaries any longer.

Defensive arguments

Does your friend control your choices? Do they make you feel defensive or insecure about your own life? This one can be more challenging to see with your own eyes, because friends should be honest with each other. If your friend is worried about a decision you're making, they may disagree to protect your well-being.

A good friend will stand up and tell you that something's wrong, but they do so in a way that's respectful of your feelings. In this way, friends become valuable sources of advice and perspective. You know they have your best interests at heart, so you're not scared of what they're going to say.

On the other hand, toxic friends disagree with every decision you make. They don't do it to protect you, they do it to control you. They argue relentlessly about your opinions. They'll shame you for making bad decisions and that negativity creates insecurity inside of you. You begin to feel scared of how they'll react. You stop telling them things because you know they're going to disapprove.

If you're trapped in this situation, then you're dealing with a toxic person, but make sure your friend is the problem, not your choices. You may know a toxic person who argues with every one of your decisions, but you may feel anxiety around your choices, because you know you're making the wrong ones.

So, how do you tell the difference between a bad friend and a bad decision? Just look at the way your friend disagrees with you. If they're worried but respectful, they may be looking out for your well-being. If they're aggressive and argumentative, they're more likely trying to control you.

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These psychological facts demonstrate the laws of power in an evidence-backed way. No tricks, no games. The laws of psychological power will blow your mind and intrigue your soul. Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about 16 laws of psychological power. 

Stand above

Good work goes unrecognized. If you want to gain power, a good work ethic is not enough. Putting in long hours can easily be overlooked. The people who find power and success are the people who work hard and get recognized. If you don't stand out, you'll blend into the background. Your work will be overshadowed and forgotten no matter how excellent you are. So, take every opportunity to lead and prove yourself. If you stand out, you can achieve your goals ahead of the rest.

Hide your intentions

Imagine you're buying a new car. At the dealership, a car salesman shows you a model that you absolutely love. You tell the salesman how eager you are to own this car. The salesman knows your intentions, so he raises the price, because you gave him the power in the conversation. That's why it's so important to hide your intentions.

Let's go back to our example. You love the car, but this time, you act like you just don't care. Now, you have the power. The salesman has to convince you to buy from him. Most of the time, salesmen will drive down the price just to win you over. So, if you want to gain psychological power, hide your intentions. Hold the power in every exchange. Make the final decision, because you want to stay in control. Give someone just enough details to stay interested, but keep your true intentions to yourself.

Actions over arguments

You can argue as long and as hard as you want. You can take home the moral victory, but winning an argument achieves almost nothing. To gain psychological power, don't waste your time arguing. If someone wants to argue, let them. If they get defensive, let them, nurse their own ego, but you know that actions speak louder than words. Your behavior will win over more people than a good argument ever will.

Mind your words

The more you speak, the less valuable your speech becomes. This is one of the most important laws of psychological power. If you speak only when necessary, you increase the power of your words. People will learn to listen to you, they'll learn to take you seriously and you'll earn their undying respect. If you speak less, you also stop yourself from making clumsy mistakes.

Many people run their mouths and then back themselves into a corner. They leak details or make promises they can't actually keep. So, if you're mindful of what you say, you avoid these pointless mistakes. You ensure that every word is intentional and purposeful and that gives you psychological power.

Cultivate confidence

Your path will be littered with obstacles, failures and setbacks. Your luck will run out. People will tell you to quit and your own brain will stand in your own way, but the people who give up deprive themselves of psychological power.

If you want to improve, cultivate confidence in your life. Let your small successes empower your self-worth. Let each victory give you the courage to overcome your next obstacle. Psychological power isn't just your relationship with others, it's also how you treat and motivate yourself.

Hire your enemies

Friends are dangerous on your path towards success. We turn a blind eye to our friends, we overlook their mistakes and put too much trust in their decisions. Just when you think you trust someone, they stab you in the back and your career begins to suffer.

Instead of getting blindsided by people you trust, earn the loyalty of people that you don't. You may not like your enemies, but hiring someone you don't trust gives you a clear-headed objectivity. Your enemies will also show you more loyalty, because they have something to prove. Friends are an important part of your life, but friends can steal your power in a heartbeat.

People are selfish

If you need a favor, don't expect people to be selfless. People are more likely to help when they have something to gain. If they don't get as much as they give, then you're out of luck. Any time you ask for a favor, don't waste your time with kindness or gratitude. Appeal to their self-interest. Explain how they'll be rewarded. Convince them that helping you will solve their problem. Make sure they know exactly how they're going to benefit in the future. If someone thinks they're helping themselves, they're much more likely to do you a favor.

Avoid commitment

Avoid unnecessary promises. Commitments get people in trouble. They lock you into one side they trap you in a box. If your team goes down, you'll go down with them. That's why powerful people avoid commitments. They stay open to multiple sides, angles and perspectives. They keep one foot in every camp, so they can make the most out of every situation. Powerful people always stay on top, because they're only committed to one person, themselves.

Play yourself down

Everyone wants to feel intelligent. If you want to win people over, make sure they feel smart. Sometimes that means you have to play dumb, but you already know you're intelligent. The fact that you can play dumb means that you have nothing to prove. To put it simply, most people don't care how intelligent you are. All they care about, is their own brain power. So, play into their hands. Make them feel smart. Give them confidence in their own ideas. You'll only make enemies by proving your intelligence.

Support your superiors

If you want to climb the ladder, you have to respect the latter. Don't try to outshine the people above you. These people will be stepping stones on your road to success. You need their help. So, don't turn your superiors against you. Support your boss, be their right-hand man, not their rival.

When the next great opportunity comes, your superiors will recognize and recommend their allies, not their enemies. Sometimes, this means making your bosses feel smarter than they are. Sometimes, this means giving them too much credit for something you really did, but if you want to be successful, never forget to support your superiors.

Stay concentrated

To find psychological power, don't just identify your strengths, develop them. Many people can do many things at an average level, but they're so busy jumping from skill to skill, that they rarely specialize in anything.

Specialties are one of the keys to success. If you concentrate on one strength, you can build a talent unlike anyone else's and in the same way, if you want to build psychological power, don't spread yourself too thin. Concentrate on one direction, one project or one purpose. Invest yourself wholly in that one direction. It's a bigger risk, but with enough dedication, your reward will be exponentially greater.

Effortless achievement

What do you say after finishing a huge project? Do you tell people how hard you worked or do you say it was no problem? To gain psychological power, play down your achievements. Make each accomplishment seem easy and natural, because people will believe you. Even if you invested countless hours into your work, show the world someone who's confident and collected. You should never forget how hard you worked, but the world doesn't need to know.

The giant shadow

Are you succeeding a legend? Do you have gigantic shoes to fill? This is a big problem. On the surface, filling a large void seems like a fantastic opportunity. However, if your predecessor did amazing things, you have your work cut out for you. To get the same level of recognition, you have to surpass the person who came before you. Depending on the job, that may be almost impossible. So, don't fill the shoes of a legend instead, be the person who brings your team back from the brink. Fill the void of someone who failed and your success will shine twice as brightly.

Set anger aside

Do you lose your temper? Anger's a destructive emotion on your road towards success. Anger makes you impulsive narrow-minded and selfish. If someone makes you angry, they know they've gotten the best of you. They know they've hit a nerve, so they'll keep pushing. Instead of getting angry, grow distance. Ambivalence is a far greater punishment than anger.

When you ignore someone, you steal their power. You force them to get your attention. You make them do the work. Strong emotions will hurt your decision making and help others take advantage of you. So, keep your frustrations to yourself stay calm and stay objective whenever possible.

The calm rush

Time is a common source of psychological power. The most powerful people are masters of timing and time management. Not only do they pack incredible amounts of work into their daily schedules, they never let their busy days get the best of them, at least not on the outside. They always seem cool calm and collected. They're never rushing or sweating. They're always patient with their work and their goals, because rushing is a recipe for disaster, it creates anxiety and it hurts your reputation. Instead of letting time control you, stay in control of your time. Your psychological power depends on it.

Calculated value

They say the best things in life are free, but if you want psychological power, you'll need to spend money when it counts. Some things are worth paying for even if it's just a name or a title. The effect of that name or title is worth all the money in the world. It's okay to be cheap and cost effective in your personal life, however if you want to climb the ladder, you cannot cut corners.

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To overcome laziness, you need a source of motivation. This means that to stop being lazy, you need reasons as to why you should be doing more. Are you always distracted and procrastinating? Find you motivational mechanism and you will find your answer to laziness. Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about 12 tips to overcome laziness.

Behavior chains

Would you rather take one long test or three short quizzes? Would you rather run an entire mile or a few short sprints? We become lazy when we feel intimidated and we feel intimidated whenever we're facing a large task that we don't think we can handle. Just imagine if you had to clean your entire living space in one day. This sounds like a huge time consuming responsibility, doesn't it? So many rooms, so many chores, you may feel overwhelmed by the amount of work required to get this done, because you're intimidated, you procrastinate.

What if instead of one big task, you started with a couple of small chores. All you have to do is make your bed and take out the trash. A few minutes later you're done. After that's done, just try another pair of small chores, put away the dishes and vacuum the carpet. Each of these jobs sound easy and manageable on their own. By linking them together, you're creating a hyper productive behavior chain.

A behavior chain is a string of small tasks that replace one big job. Now, in this case, you're not cleaning an entire house, you're just doing a few small chores. The outcome is just the same, but you're much more likely to be productive when you don't feel intimidated.

So, the next time you're feeling lazy, just split your responsibilities into smaller pieces. Start with one small job and then chain together as many little chores as you can. The momentum of one success will carry you into the next and you'll knock off item after item on your to-do list and before you know it, your one big responsibility becomes a thing of the past.

Creating energy

Do you avoid work because you're just too tired? Do you procrastinate because you don't have enough energy to be productive? These are two of the most common and destructive excuses for lazy behavior. Countless people blame their lack of productivity on low energy, but energy isn't the problem, you're just lazy.

Instead of facing your challenges, you may imagine a day when you're full of energy when your mind is clear and your motivation is mounting, but that day rarely ever comes. Productive people know that energy and motivation will never fall into your lap. You have to find ways to energize yourself every day. It's your responsibility to find that inspiration and overcome your laziness.

Open opportunities

Do you save your hardest work for the end of the day? This bad habit gets many people in trouble. They procrastinate their biggest responsibilities, because they box themselves into a corner. Let's say you have four things to do today, three household chores and one big responsibility for work. Now, you know you're the most productive in the mornings. So, when should you do your work? Should you prioritize your chores or your job?

Many people focus on the easy stuff while procrastinating the things that matter. If this sounds familiar, flip your schedule around. Just go ahead and do the hard stuff first and the easy stuff later. That way, you have the time and will power to perform at your best.

Identify pressure

Are you lazy or just overwhelmed? Your productivity may suffer simply because you're overwhelmed at work. You may feel a tremendous amount of stress or pressure and that creates fear. When we're scared of our responsibilities, we make excuses, we avoid our work, we get lost in pointless distractions, but the issue isn't your ambition or work ethic, it's your confidence.

Ignoring the hour

Who decides when you start working, you or the clock? Time is a popular motivator. Many people use the clock to counteract their lazy habits. Let's say you're having a slow morning. You're struggling to get started on work. So, you look at the clock and you say at exactly 10 o'clock: I'm going to be productive, but what if you're ready to work before 10 o'clock? What happens to your motivation at 9:50, 9:55 or 9:58?

In those final crawling minutes, you may dread your work, you may sit restlessly at your desk, you may be racking your brain thinking of a thousand reasons to procrastinate your work. My point is, time can be helpful and hurtful. If you're struggling to get started, you can use the clock, but never let the clock stop you from working.

So, if you want to get something done, start right away, don't sit mindlessly at your desk, don't waste a few minutes scrolling through your phone and don't wait for the clock to strike ten. If you're ready, get started immediately, because those final few minutes aren't doing you any favors.

Reminders of value

Laziness narrows our vision. When we feel like procrastinating, we forget why we're working. Our work seems pointless, frustrating and boring. Every word or number seems to suck the life right out of you.

The problem is: you're losing track of the big picture. Laziness preoccupies your mind with short-term rewards. You lose yourself in the grind of your work, but the grind is not the reason you work. You're not working to enjoy every second of your day, you're working to build a brighter future.

So, whenever your laziness takes over, remind yourself what you're fighting for and why your work is valuable to you.

Switch it up

You can boost productivity by rotating between different jobs. Let's say you have to solve 100 problems by the end of the day. You could solve all 100 problems at the same time, but chances are you'll get tired and your performance will suffer.

If you have a long job to do just space your productivity by rotating between different tasks. Solve 10 problems, send a few emails, make your bed and then solve a few more problems. Each time you rotate, you're building momentum and re-lighting that productive fire. Your brain loves new things. It gets excited every time you switch gears. So, rotate early and rotate often.

Hide your desserts

Are you easily distracted? The problem may not be your work ethic or self-control, it's the availability of distractors in your life. Just imagine you're eating a large plate of spinach. Suddenly, a big piece of chocolate cake appears right next to you and by comparison, your spinach doesn't look very good. It becomes significantly more difficult to focus on your spinach when you're staring at a piece of cake.

Distractors work the same way. You can't focus on work when your phone, TV or game console is only a few feet away. So, you put away the chocolate cake, you hide your phone, you unplug your TV and you put your console somewhere out of sight. That way, you can focus on your spinach without getting distracted by dessert.

Keep your word

Your word is a powerful and productive tool. To overcome your laziness, you have to make promises to yourself, but you'll never keep those promises unless you honor your word. Let's say you want to finish a project tomorrow. Once you make that commitment, it's critical that you follow through, because you gave your word to yourself.

Many people set big goals. They make huge promises and then they break them. Each time you fail to follow through, your word loses value. So, take your commitment seriously, start with small promises and build towards substantial goals and as you practice and succeed, your word will gain more power.

Lazy time

Many people frame laziness as the enemy. They think productive people never get distracted, but the truth is: laziness will always be a part of your life. In a lot of ways, lazy time is good for you. Your brain and body need moments of rest relaxation and stress relief. You can't work every hour of every day, but the difference between a lazy person and a productive person is control.

Productive people limit and manage the time they spend being lazy. They use their lazy time consciously and that way, their bodies and brains can truly rest and recover. So, let yourself have lazy time every once in a while and use that time wisely. So, you can be productive when it counts.

Create difficulty

It's easy to press a button and flop down on the couch. It's easy to avoid your work, but it doesn't have to be. A great way to overcome laziness is by making it difficult to be lazy. Let's say you have a bad habit of browsing the internet during working hours. You could tackle this bad habit by disconnecting your computer from your WiFi, but it's easy to reconnect, isn't it? Just press one button and your bad habits come running back.

So, you have to make it harder on yourself. Don't just disconnect your computer. Unplug your entire router. Make it frustrating to engage with your bad habits. We surrender to our vices, because they're easier than working, but when your bad habits become difficult, they lose their appeal.

Unravel your shame

Do you criticize yourself for being lazy? Do you feel guilty for every minute you've wasted this? Guilt is a big problem for unproductive people. You know you shouldn't be lazy, you know you should fix your bad habits, so you shame and criticize yourself, but the past is the past. Don't pretend your mistakes never happened, but don't shame yourself for them either.

Self-criticism will not change the past. You'll never get back the hours you lost, but you can make better use of the hours to come. Forgive yourself get rid of your guilt and motivate yourself to do better next time.

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These are the signs you’re dealing with an evil person. An evil person will exhibit signs that may remind you of a “psychopath”, but these are two different things. So be careful, because you never know who you’re dealing with. Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about seven signs you're dealing with an evil person now let's begin.

Enjoying your pain

Do you know someone who enjoys other people's pain? I mean, do you know someone who laughs at your misfortune? They may take advantage of your pain or get some kind of pleasure out of your suffering? This is a sign you're dealing with an evil person, because this behavior demonstrates a complete lack of empathy.

Empathy is your ability to walk in another person's shoes. If someone experiences pain or hardship, you can imagine how hard their life must be and you sympathize with their pain, but someone without empathy makes no effort to understand others. In fact, they actively enhance or increase others pain through criticism, cruelty or even physical aggression.

If you know someone who lacks sympathy, they may be a bad person, but they may also be something else. A lack of empathy is one of the most commonly cited elements of psychopathy.

Psychopathy is a personality disorder characterized by egotistical thoughts, anti-social behavior and of course, a lack of empathy. Not all psychopaths are bad or evil people. Many learn to live normal lives, but when a psychopath enjoys the pain of others, they can become evil and dangerous.

A dangerous lack of empathy takes many different shapes. Maybe they stab you in the back by betraying your trust, maybe they leave you out to dry when you're counting on them the most, or maybe they use your secrets to tear you down and control your life. In all of these situations, an evil person is happily throwing salt into your womb.

So, don't spend your time with people who enjoy hurting you or other people, because that lack of empathy means you're dealing with an evil person.

Avoiding all responsibility

Does your friend avoid responsibility? Do they pass the blame when anything goes wrong? This avoidant and irresponsible behavior is a common sign of a selfish evil personality. Just think about the last time you messed up, maybe you made a careless mistake at work. How did you feel afterwards? Guilty, embarrassed, apologetic.

After messing up, good people take responsibility for their mistakes and they take steps to redeem themselves, but evil people do exactly the opposite. If an evil person makes a mistake, they avoid responsibility altogether. In their minds, they can't do anything wrong. They can't be the one at fault, so they freely blame and attack others for their own mistakes. They don't feel guilty, they don't feel embarrassed or apologetic. They make no effort to redeem themselves and they don't apologize to the people who were affected by their mistake. Instead, they play the victim they act like someone else did this to them and they avoid responsibility all together.

Cruelty to animals

Do you know someone who's mean to animals? Maybe they mistreat their own pets or they push away your pets every time they try to say "hello". Some people like animals more than others. Some adore pets, cuddling and talking to them like they're people. Others acknowledge their animals, but largely give them space, but only a select few people ignore or senselessly bully animals.

This behavior is a common sign of something evil inside them. Animals are living things just like we are. We connect with them in the same way we connect with other human beings. Just imagine playing with your dog after a long day at work or listening to your cat purr on your lap. Both of these encounters relieve our stress, release feel-good hormones in the brain and they make you feel loved.

When someone is cruel to animals, they show a disregard for the living. That cruelty demonstrates a non-existent connection to other living organisms. In other words, this person lacks the empathy to identify with another living breathing creature or maybe they're just too egotistical to care. Either way, pay attention when someone you know is cruel to animals. Whether this person is hurting their dog or throwing rocks at squirrels, animal cruelty is a telltale sign of something evil.

Profitable deception

Everyone has told a couple of white lies in their lives. Sometimes, you lie to spare someone's feelings or save them from pain. Other times, you do it to get yourself out of trouble or avoid unnecessary conflict, but evil people don't lie for the benefit of others. Instead, they lie actively and often to benefit themselves.

Deception and manipulation are common signs of a psychopathic personality. In fact, deception and manipulation are common in every corner of the dark triad. The dark triad describes three major personality disorders: narcissism, machiavellianism and psychopathy. Each disorder is often associated with violent or evil people. In different ways, all three disorders in the dark triad struggle to consider the suffering of others.

Psychopaths rarely develop the emotional skills to understand another person's hardships. Narcissists think so highly of themselves. They may believe they have the right to manipulate others. Machiavellian selfishness motivates people to manipulate deceive and lie on a regular basis.

Someone who lies consistently for their own personal gain may fall somewhere on this dangerous spectrum. They may struggle with empathy. They may think far too highly of themselves. They may be too self-absorbed to understand the pitfalls of manipulation, but either way, someone who shamelessly takes advantage of others may be an evil person.

Malicious criticism

Does your friend make you feel stupid? There's a big difference between being told you're stupid and feeling stupid by comparison. Let's say you're friends with a hyper-intelligent person. You may sometimes feel stupid by comparison. Some of their jokes may fly over your head. Maybe you just don't understand a lot of the concepts they discuss. This comparison doesn't make this person evil there's nothing evil about being smart, but what if someone makes you feel stupid because they tell you directly.

Let's try another scenario. You're talking to the same hyper-intelligent friend telling them about something that scares you and instead of listening to your fears, they make you feel stupid for being scared. They belittle your fears and they make you feel small. This is a sign of an evil person.

A good person would try to spare your feelings. If they had differing ideas or opinions, they would present those opinions in a way that doesn't hurt or attack you, but this friend tried to make you feel bad. This toxic and possibly evil person may be taking out their own frustrations on you. They may use you like a punching bag, because they think you're weaker or less intelligent than they are.

This can cause major problems in any relationship, friendship or partnership. If you know someone who criticizes you or makes you feel stupid, it's best to keep your distance, because you may be dealing with an evil person.

Universal self-interest

An evil individual looks out for one and only one person and that's themselves. To an evil person, their own pleasure comfort and success are the only things that matter in their life. So, they're willing to do anything to make their own life better. Let's call this universal self-interest, because no matter what, this person is always looking to help themselves.

Universal self-interest is another important sign of the dark triad. It's associated with high self-esteem, delusions of grandeur and victim syndrome, which we talked about before. So, don't expect these people to do you any favors. Just think about it. If you concentrate 100 of your attention on yourself, how much time do you spend thinking about others? Zero.

Evil people spend so little time thinking about their friends or family. Evil people manipulate and step on others to satisfy their own desires. As long as they have something to gain, an evil person will go to any lengths to make it happen.

External warnings

Have you ever been warned that a partner or friend is a bad person? Has anyone ever told you to keep your distance? Even though this person seems great on the outside, here's the biggest problem with many of these vindictive personality types. They're great at covering their tracks. They can pretend for long periods of time to be your best friend or perfect match. They pretend to care, listen and guard your trust, but when it benefits them the most, these same people will stab you in the back.

In many cases, we become infatuated with this person's best qualities. So, we ignore the red flags, we let their lies go unpunished, we allow them to manipulate or control us. We swallow their criticisms and let it affect us internally.

Evil people are easy to recognize on the outside when you're unattached and uninvested, but on the inside, it's difficult to tell the difference. So, listen to what other people are trying to tell you. If this person is doing something evil to you, they've likely done evil things before.

Pay attention to the input of friends, family and even their past partners. If everybody raves about how great and considerate this person is, then you probably have nothing to worry about, but if other people warn you about getting too close, then you may be dealing with someone who's worse than you realize.

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