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Published on March 4, 2020

Reasons Why People Are Ignoring You

Ignoring someone can send negative vibes. Do you know why people are ignoring you? Is there a definite way of finding out why people do that? Of course there is. Hello everyone and welcome to thebestmind.net. In this article, we're going to learn about ten reasons why people are ignoring you.

You wait to be invited to the conversation

Do you need someone to recognize you before speaking? Are you still waiting for someone else to ask you a question if you don't take the initiative? That could be the reason why people are ignoring you. Countless people make this same mistake every single day.

Let's say you have something you want to add to the discussion. You planify everything out in your mind, but you don't know when and how to make be heard. You wait for someone else to open the conversation with you. You need them to invite you into the conversation,but you know that rarely ever happens.

If you don't speak up, no one's going to do it for you. It might seem like you're being ignored, but in reality you're choosing to stay silent. So, if you want to be a part of the conversation, there's only one manner to do it. You have to acknowledge yourself. You have to put yourself out there. Otherwise, you're gonna stand around waiting for something that'll never happen.

You overthink

Do you think too much about everything? I mean, do you expect a million different ideas to say, but in the end you don't say anything? If this sounds like you, I've got good news and bad news for you.

The good news is that overthinking is natural and very common, but here's the bad news. It might be the real reason people keep ignoring you. If you're an over-thinker, you might feel like you're participating more than you actually are.

In your head, you're actively engaged. You're thinking about questions you could ask. You're considering different perspectives, but you're not saying anything out loud. So, people don't realize that you're trying so hard. They think you're shy, quiet or just not paying attention. They're ignoring you because it seems like you don't want to socialize. You sit there in silence. It's like putting an obstacle and this obstacle makes people flee.

So, try to vocalize your thoughts. It doesn't have to be something amazing or profound, just let people know that you're not actually quiet or disconnected. Something as simple as saying :  ''I think it's a good idea'' can make you seem more sociable and the more sociable you are, the more people will enjoy talking to you.

You're too pessimistic

Pessimism is another reason why people get ignored. Without realizing it, you might become a constant source of negativity and that might drive people away. The simple truth is that people want to spend time with others who are positive and fun, people who can make the best of any situation, even if it's boring or awkward.

Let's say your friends are meeting for coffee or for lunch in the restaurant. They are all very pleased to see each other and they want to spend a good time, but what if you can't avoid whining about your life? That's going to ruin the mood for everybody else. So, the next time they go out for coffee, your friends may not invite you, because they just want to enjoy each other's company, not sit and listen to you complain. In other words, if you're the kind of person who's always complaining, it's time to stop, because that negativity might be making you the odd man out.

You assume the worst

Let's say you're getting lunch when you see your friend standing across the room, you wave at them, but instead of waving back, they ignore you. Does that mean you're not friends anymore? Does that mean they hate you now?

Many people assume that worse. They get stuck in these destructive trains of thought. They convince themselves that their whole friendship is falling apart. In the moment, it feels like a nightmare, but if you take a step back, you'll realize how insignificant it really is.

By chance, your friends just didn't see you. They may have been thinking about something else or maybe they were in the middle of a different conversation, but you automatically assume the worst and end up accidentally pushing your friend away.

Sometimes, people seem like they're ignoring you when they're really just preoccupied with something else. So, the next time you're feeling left out, just make sure you're not just jumping to conclusions.

You try too hard

Many people start to panic when they're feeling ignored. They're so scared of being left out that they overcompensate. They try to be the funniest person in the room, the best entertainer or the person with the most interesting stories, but the truth is, no one's expecting you to be the best at anything.

In fact, when you try to stand out, you end up pushing people away because you're not being yourself, you're pretending to be something you're not and other people will notice right away. Ultimately, people want to feel comfortable and that means being yourself. Even if you're worried about being weird, acting weird is almost always better than trying too hard.

Strong body language

Sometimes, people ignore you because of your body language. These nonverbal cues often called, invisible body language, discourage people from interacting with you, because they tell people that you're closed off, that you don't want to be social or that you're not confident in yourself. Some common signs include staring at the ground, shaking your legs or folding your body inward.

All of these pieces of body language communicate the same thing to the people around you. They say: don't talk to me. So, that's exactly what people do. People may be ignoring you because you're subtly telling them to. So, if you want people to feel more comfortable approaching you, use your body language to let them know.

You miss social cues

No matter where you are, there are certain social cues that you have to pay attention to. Certain standards that you have to follow if you want to blend in. Some are easy and obvious and others are a little bit harder to pick up on. If you miss these social cues, people might feel uncomfortable around you and you might end up feeling ignored.

So, what do these social cues look like? Let's say you're feeling super energetic. You're ready to socialize. You're excited to talk to people. Normally, those are good traits, right? Outgoing people attract other people, but not if the rest of the room is quiet and laid-back.

If you're the only one who's loud and upbeat, it's gonna throw people off and they might ignore you. It works the same way for other social cues like talking too much or talking about the wrong things.

You have to participate in the conversation without going overboard and talk about things that other people like to talk about, not just the subjects you like. If you can match these social standards, you've got nothing to worry about, but if you miss the mark, you might feel left out.

You try to be cool

Many people try to attract attention by playing it cool. They sit back look as confident as they can and expect other people to come to them, but instead of attracting others, playing it cool usually pushes people away.

That distant attitude makes people feel uncomfortable and awkward around you. In their mind, you think you're too cool to socialize or have fun and that makes you much less approachable. So, instead of trying to act cool, be nice, friendly and welcoming. Make it easy for people to relate and feel secure around you, because ultimately that's the kind of attitude that draws people in.

You ask a lot of questions

When you feel insecure about something, you might get this itch to overcompensate. You try to solve every problem. You try to put out every fire. You go out of your way to make sure no one is ever mad at you.

Even if you have the best intentions, this constant worrying frustrates the people in your life. Not just because you're always doubting yourself, but also because you're asking too much.

Imagine you're working on a project for your boss. You want to make sure everything turns out perfectly, so you email them about every little detail. Eventually, they're going to get frustrated or ignore you altogether, because you're asking way too much and it's driving them crazy.

You ramble too much

Many people that feel ignored tell the same kinds of stories. They're long, they're confusing and they put the entire room to sleep. Let's say someone asks you a question like: ''what'd you do this weekend?'' A good answer would be something short and sweet. You might say: ''I play basketball with some friends and then watch movies''. That kind of answer is perfect. It's simple and it stimulates a more engaging conversation.

The other person can easily ask: ''what movie did you see or where'd you play basketball?'' From there, you can go back and forth making the conversation fun for everyone, but that's where many people mess things up.

When someone asks about their weekend, they ramble for 15 minutes about every single thing they did. They touch on every tiny detail and suddenly, that back and forth conversation turns into a one-sided lecture and that's not fun for anyone. In general, people have pretty short attention spans.

You might think your story's interesting, but you'll probably lose your audience in the first twenty to thirty seconds. So, just keep your stories quick and detail oriented. If you can do that, people will enjoy talking to you and come back for more.

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